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Accept The Mirrors That Others Hold Up For You	October 13, 1990
Advice Comes In Many Forms	March 28, 2004
Anybody Listening?	November 20, 1982
Are You A Leader Or A Boss?	June 22, 1991
Arguments Can Cycle Into Anger, Hurt and Retaliation	July 3, 2005
Assertiveness Involves Balancing Rights	November 5, 1988
Assumptions Are Dangerous	October 13, 1978
Avoid A "Bumper Car" Marriage, Use Consensus	March 17, 2002
Avoid Jabs And Pokes In Your Relationship	October 15, 2000
Avoid Static In Your Communication	November 22, 1997
Awareness Is The Key To Coping	December 15, 1978

Becoming Stuck In A Rut	March 9, 1979
Beefing And Bitching Are Like Gremlins	July 28, 1984
Being A Friend Is A Challenge	August 29, 1979
Birds Of A Feather	September 7, 1985
Blowing "It" Out Of Proportion	May 28, 1983
Bolting Only Locks People Out As Well As In	February 8, 1997
Book Lists Guidelines For Intimacy	April 24, 2005
The Book The Tyranny of Niceness Unmasks Our Need For Approval	September 25. 2005
Both Sides Of An Issue	November 21, 1981
Bridging The Gap	September 21, 1979
Bring Things Up Before You Bring Them Out	November 14, 1998

Can Be A Danger In Suggestions	August 23, 1978
Caring Enough To Reach Out	April 2, 1983
Caring Is Often Misunderstood and Complicated	July 7, 1990
The Challenge Of Parenting Needs New Knowledge	May 9, 2004
Chalking Up Points	April 20, 1985
Changing Ourselves Is Challenging	January 2, 2005
Check Out Before You Check In	August 9, 1997
Check The Lenses You See Life Through	October 21, 1989
Childish Debate	September 26, 1981
Choose Your Adverbs Carefully	November 10, 2002
Clarify If It's A Request Or A Rule	July 19, 1997
Clarify, Don't Interrogate In Family Communication	September 16, 1995
Clear Away Rubble Of Anger	July 11, 2004
Close Encounters Of The Best Kind	April 7, 1978
Communicating Is And Isn't Like Fishing	August 29, 1991
Communication Fables Exploded	January 2, 1988
Communication Is Challenging	February 22, 2004
Communication Is Like A Painting	January 16, 2005
Complaints Don't Work - Concerns Do	October 9, 1993
Conquer Shyness	May 25, 1985
Conversational "Land Mines"	November 23, 1985
Couples Can Laugh At Nagging	June 30, 2002
Crossing Ahead - Stop, Look & Listen	January 20, 1978
Crusting Hurts Plants And People	June 19, 1981

Dangerous Language	February 20, 1982
Dangerous Questions	August 31, 1985
Dangerous Rescuing	October 29, 1983
Dating Questionnaire Can Uncover Unhealthy Relationships	February 20, 2005
Dealing With Conflict Needs Preparation	November 12, 1988
Dealing With Differences	April 26, 1997
Dealing With Difficult People. It's Hard To Look At Self	March 23, 1991
Dealing With the	March 19, 1988
Determination Is Different From Stubbornness	April 4, 2004
Disagreement or Argument - Learn Which It Is	February 18, 2001
Discovering The "Flip" Side	April 12, 1986
Do You Know Your Conversational Style?	May 23, 1992
Do You Use Jam Or Marmalade?	April 4, 1998
Don't Fight The Glare	January 30, 1981
Don't Hide Behind Tables	July 4, 1992
Don't Question Things To Death	December 5, 1998
Don't Read Other People's Meters	August 5, 1995
Don't Toss Raw Eggs At Each Other	March 9, 1996
Driving Blind	June 25, 1983

Earth Calling John	June 28, 1986
Editing Bad Scenes From Your Memory	February 12, 1983
Effective Living Can Be Learned	June 13, 1987
Empathize The Other Person's Pain, Don't Add To It	November 3, 2002
Evaluate, Don't Criticize	November 20, 1993
Examples of Dealing With Conflict	November 19, 1988
Express Appreciation Often	May 8, 2005

Facts Need Feelings And Desires	July 9, 2000
Falling Off The Cliff	January 4, 1986
Families Need To Spend Time Together	October 7, 2001
Family Agreement Books Can Help	March 16, 1991
Feedback Is Different From Criticism	January 19, 1991
Feeling 'Won't' All Over	June 30, 1984
Feeling Doesn't Mean 'Being'	September 6, 1986
Find The Right Path Through Conflict	August 19, 1989
Focus On Better, Not Worse In Your Relationship	March 11, 2001
Follow Through Is Important	April 16, 1983
Forget Hindsight, You Couldn't Have Should Have	January 18, 1980

Getting Someone's Attention	February 16, 2003
Give Others Some Advance Notice	August 17, 1999
Give Someone An Offer They Can't Refuse	July 11, 1998
Give Valentine's Gifts That Last Forever	February 15, 2004
Giving In Leads To Pay Back	June 18, 2000
Giving Thanks Means Many Things	October 17, 2004
Giving Thanks With The Heart	October 12, 2003
Good Communication Need Words	December 16, 1977
Good Listening Is Important	September 1, 1978
The Greatest Gift Is In Giving Yourself To Others	December 26, 2004
Green Lights	August 24, 1979
Grudges And Hurts	July 7, 1984

Handling Garbage In Life	May 23, 1980
Handle With Care, Avoid Negative Criticism	December 7, 1979
Healing Takes Time	September 27, 1997
Healing The Hurts We Don't Intend In Marriage Part 1	November 4, 2001
Healing Unintended Hurts In Marriage Part 2	November 11, 2001
Hearing The Words, But Not Listening	October 31, 1987
Hearing Your Mailbox Affects Your Relationships	October 26, 1985
Helps To Look At Emotions	July 28, 1978
Highlight Your Experiences In Life	June 20, 1987
Honesty And Communication In Relationships	October 27, 2002
Horriblizing As An Art	October 10, 1981
How Clear Are Your Messages?	January 5, 1979
How Does A Man Show Respect For His Partner?	October 26, 2003
How To Avoid Saying Too Little Or Too Much	July 20, 2003
How To Ask For Help	August 6, 1983
How To Deal With Criticism	May 7, 2000
How To Deal With Unwanted Salespeople	November 9, 2003
How To File A Complaint	November 19, 1983
How To Handle Being Corrected	October 14, 2001
How To Say "No" To Requests	October 3, 1981
How You Can Have A Happy Day	July 6, 1999
Human Explosions Can Be Contained	July 27, 1985

If You Don't Know When To Quit, You've Got a Problem	December 28, 1991
Ineffective Reminders Create Tensions	March 9, 1991
Investment Risks In Life Carry Risks	March 3, 2002
It Only Takes A Moment To Change Your Life	January 27, 2002
It's A Challenge To Understand Others	March 8, 1997
It's Hard To Say Goodbyes	August 31, 2003
It Is Important To Clarify When "YES" Means "YES"	March 14, 2004
It's Time To Come Home	June 27, 2004

Keep An " I " On Your Marriage	January 30, 1999
Keep Your Conversation In The Right Lane	October 26, 1999
Keep Your Dipper Out Of My Bucket	August 26, 1989
Keeping The Dirt Out Of Relationships	May 18, 1985
Keeping Your Balance in Relationships	March 1, 1986

Language Plays An Important Role	January 23, 2005
Learn About The Nature of Anger	October 10, 2004
Learn The Etiquette Of Asking	June 15, 1999
Learn To Accept Your Partner's Differences	April 21, 2002
Learn When And When Not To Say Something	March 2, 1991
Learn When Not To Take Things Personally	August 24, 2003
Learn To Understand Both Sides Of Communication	February 29, 2004
Learning Starts With Knowing Self	March 6, 2005
Let's Banish The Word	March 13, 1982
Life Changes Come Fast And Unexpected And Bring Miracles	September 18, 2005
A Little Dab Can Do A Lot	October 8, 2000
Listen To What You Are Saying	November 29, 1997
Listening Is An Art Which Must Be Learned	May 19, 1978
Long Talkers Need Signals From Others	February 8, 2004

Magic Ingredient Is Listening	March 17, 1978
Make Sure You Know What Others Are Saying	September 21, 1996
Making A Deal With Yourself	February 23, 1979
Making Knots And Letting Go Of Them	November 30, 2003
Men Need To Learn About Romance	August 3, 2003
Myths That Prevent People From Getting Help With Their Relationships	March 20, 2005

Negative Attitudes Block Communication	March 16, 2003
New Excuse, Old Excuse, or No Excuse At All	February 1, 1992
The Newspaper Comics Strips Can Teach Us A Lot	February 23, 2005
No Yards Penalties	September 28, 1979
Nobody Likes Interruptions	April 16, 1994
Not Communicating Can Be Abusive	September 14, 1996

Off Hand Comments Can Hurt	May 14, 2000
Offering Help Is A Skill	October 20, 1978
Offering Help Without Using Dangerous Words in Marriage	April 6, 1979
One Second That Changes Your Entire Life	June 28, 1997

P's and Q's Of Conflict	December 17, 1983
Paging Is Needed For Effective Communication	August 10, 2003
Pointing A Finger	December 7, 1996
Positive Decisions Are More Effective	January 5,1991
Positive Ways To Deal With The "Nots" Of Life	December 7, 2003
Predictions And Resolutions	January 11, 2004
Prevent Explosive Mixtures	November 7, 1987
Project Yourself, Not Your Voice	December 14, 1999

Questioning Can Create Defensiveness	February 8, 2000

Recognize Dangerous Moments In Your Life	November 28, 1998
Recognize Helpful And Unhelpful Feedback	March 2, 1996
Recognize Our Unique Prairie Language	May 18, 2003
Recognize Predators In Your Life	August 17, 2003
Recognize Your Catastrophic Self-Talk	March 7, 1987
Recognize Your Wakeup Call	October 19, 2003
Reduce Conflict In Family Life	March 24, 1984
Relationships Are Like Escalators	November 9, 1985
Relationships Have Many Sides	September 5, 1987
Relationships Need Extras As Bread Needs Margarine	June 8, 1985
Respect Is Antidote To Abuse	August 20, 2000
Responsibility Rests on Self	August 4, 1978
Roadblocks To Listening	April 20, 1979

Saying	July 18, 1987
Seeds of Destruction	July 27, 1979
Self Awareness Helps Us To Listen	April 17, 2005
Sell, Don't Shove Your Opinions or Ideas	May 18, 1996
Selling Your Ideas Is Like Growing A Garden	April 27, 1991
Send "Apprec - o - grams"	July 5, 1986
Separation Can Be A Positive Process	September 19, 2004
Set Priorities To Deal With Fickleness	April 13, 2003
Signalling Others	January 16,1981
Signalling That You Are Open	January 29,1983
Sizing Up People Helps You To Understand Yourself	June 21, 1986
Skirting Precipices is Dangerous In Relationships	December 12, 1981
Smiles Cost Nothing, But Pay Off Well	June 22, 1985
Snapping Turtles	December 10, 1983
Solve Your Problems With A Five Point Program	February 2, 1991
Some Ways To Avoid Interrupting	January 25, 1992
Stop Hitting Yourself	June 2, 1984
Strategies For Dealing With Self-Absorbed People	January 12, 2003
Strong Leaders Needed For Community Boards	October 13, 2002
Style of Talking Is Important	December 9, 1977
Submerged Emotions	September 5, 1980

Take Off Your Shoes To Show That You Care	December 16, 1989
Taking Over Is Not Helpful	December 10, 2000
Talking About Feelings May Hurt, But It Also Helps	November 10, 1990
Talking Back To Others	June 9, 1984
Talking Hand In Hand	August 9, 1986
Ten Minute Talk That Takes Half An Hour	January 12, 1979
Thanking Others Is Important All Year	October 20, 2002
Third Foot Is Dangerous	August 18, 1978
Tie Down Ideas With A Word	July 25, 1987
Tips About Listening	June 26, 1981
To Respond Or React? That Is The Question	January 10, 1987
Trying To Change Others	June 29, 1985
Trying To Save Face Doesn't Get You Anywhere	June 22, 2003

Understanding Arguments Involves Understanding Feelings	June 17, 1989
Understanding Builds Respect	May 9, 1987
Untying Knots In Life	May 1, 1982
Use Duck Tape On Yourself to Improve Your Listening	October 5, 1999
Use Time Or It Will Use You	August 24, 1999

The Value of "Time Outs"	September 27, 1986
Verbal Negaholics Can Destroy Themselves & Others	June 8, 1991
Verbal Shorthand Can Be Dangerous	March 2, 1985

Walking On Tacks Or On Eggs	March 7, 1992
Watch For Clues To Feelings	November 18, 2001
We Can Learn A Lot About Life From Weeds?	July 17, 2005
We Can Learn The "Wonder" Of Better Communication	May 29, 2005
We Need To Learn How To Reach Out For Help	January 25, 2004
We Put Up "Walls" That Block Communication	November 21, 2004
We Talk So Others Will Hear	April 10, 2005
We Want To Feel Accepted In Relationships	May 1, 2005
Were You Talking To Me?	September 24, 1983
What Makes A Marriage Work?	December 14, 2003
What To Do When People Get In Your Face	December 5, 2004
What You Say To Someone/Not Always What You Mean To Say	May 30, 1992
When Is A Slip, Really A Tumble?	January 18, 1992
When Is Asking NOT Asking ?	April 4, 1992
When Questions Aren't Questions	November 21, 1998
When Visiting In Hospital, Give The Gift Of Presence	September 11, 2005
Why Get Upset When It Doesn't Do Any Good?	September 28, 2003
Why Men And Women Can't Talk To Each Other	May 16, 1992
Why People Don't Communicate	September 7, 1996
Windows Are Important To Your Mental Health	May 11, 1985
Winning Words Can Help You	June 16, 1984
Working On Your Batting Average	August 22, 1980
Writing Things Down	November 1, 1986

You Need To Plan To "Get The Word Out"	January 4, 2004
Your Right Of Reply	July 2, 1983
Youth Won't Listen To Lectures	April 18, 2004